Posted by: vftmom247 | 2014/04/10

Guilty Hearts



I know, I am semi-cheating by doing a twofer. Unfortunately, I’ll be feeling more guilt by skipping a day in my heart than by bending the letter-scheme.

Which leads me to today’s topic. There is good guilt and bad guilt, in my humble opinion. Huh??? Well, I think bad guilt is you using guilt to make others do what you want. If you have kids, you have both used and been the victim of this guilt. You know, when you clean the house really well hoping your kids or DH will get the hint and clean their rooms? Or when you let the kids get McFlurries because they are wondering why they are the drive-thru and eating hurriedly in the car again? In my experience, the kids don’t clean their rooms, and don’t really care how they got the McFlurries, just that they did.

There is good guilt, however. Good guilt makes you do the stuff you know you should do. Like making sure you walk following an afternoon dessert, or finishing a project when you said you would because you know people are counting on you to do it. This is productive guilt, and as long as you let it gooo, let it go, can’t hold it in anymore…you remain basically ok.

It is truly a little like Elsa from Frozen, speaking of whom. She had to let go of the guilt to be free to love; you can’t wallow in guilt, good or bad, or you remain trapped and can’t live a normal life.

Even we Catholics don’t hold onto guilt forever…just til we fulfill our penance. 🙂



  1. Ha ha … I am Baptist, but we can heap on the guilt too. 😉
    I agree though – 2 sides to guilt, good and bad. Just be careful of holding on to what I call “false guilt” – the strain we put on ourselves to live up to expectations that no one else but we ourselves expect us to live up to!!

    • Oh gosh, that “false guilt” is such a pain! Thank goodness the DH usually calls me on it. Nice phrase for it though. Thanks for stopping by! I’m enjoying your blog, so glad to find it.

  2. A great wee blog…there are so many writer’s blogs!

    • Thanks for stopping by! That is one nice thing about the Challenge- so many new writers to discover .

  3. Hello! I’m popping in from the a-z and I’m so happy to find you! I love finding other believers and Catholics in the blogosphere! I’m going to follow, b/c I want to stay connected. I think women of faith can change many things! I write about my faith too, but not exclusively. Come visit me, if you’d like. 🙂

    • Thanks for the follow and stopping in! Women of faith can most definitely change things – look at Mary, Mother Teresa….so many more.


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