Posted by: vftmom247 | 2011/08/10

Commentary on today’s Impulse

This one has stayed with me especially today (A grain of wheat – see below).  It is a really good reminder of how the ‘me’ has to be submerged into the ‘we’ in order to have a healthy marriage and relationship.  I think that is an important thing in our relationship with God too.  It is essential that we put God above what we want to do in so many areas – mostly because if what we wants butts heads with what God wants us to do, it’s like a flashing light to re-evaluate that want.  To put it in a convoluted way.

If I put my wants ahead of God’s at the moment, there would be a lot more…angst and indecision involved in leaving.  But the fluff, like Napster and Netflix, etc. just pale next to the clear, unmistakeable, deafening call that God has placed before us.

In marriage, if you don’t submerge your wants to your partner’s, then it’s like two dogs on the same rope, with a steak on opposite ends – you’ll pull and tug so ferociously that the rope will break sooner or later.  But if you can be like Alaskan sled dogs, you can get to your mutual goal twice as quickly if you do it together, in the same harness.  In order to have a mutual goal though, the selfish has to get drowned in the unselfish.  And it can’t be one partner giving in all the time, because the other element in a mutual goal and in a mutually giving marriage is a mutual respect.  Both partners have to acknowledge that what the other feels, thinks, and does is worthy of respect.  Vielen Dank, meine Liebe für unsere wunderbare Ehe.

This may be where both the early feminists and the marriages of the 50’s screwed up.  The early feminists thought all men were dogs, and the men of the 50’s had ‘the little woman’ at home.  Not a good way to have a healthy marriage.

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